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I love this quote, since it is so true in my life. I am surrounded by people who are very materialistic and focused on fame and fortune. I have never understood this, I believe that a goal should enrich you as a person. It seems like the prior is focused on what others think of you and it misses the point of what do you think of yourself, when you are alone, without others surrounding you… But that’s just me.

So since I focus on enriching lives and I try and avoid negativity and hurting people I am seen as weak, which I find amusing to be honest. I just choose my battles, truth is why must I fight with people and ruin a relationship over something that I will never be able to change anyway when I can rather focus my energy on learning from their behavior and reactions. And from what I learn I can change my approach and use a different route to see how they react to that point… You see I am not weak 🙂 I use my experiences to enhance my understanding of people. In doing this I have learned so much about myself and personality types.  So next time someone decides to be nice to you instead of screaming at you, consider what they are learning about you as a person…

Consider the strength it takes to stay quiet and not protect themselves, the strength it takes to not defend against the false accusations, the lies and all the pain they have to deal with. It takes strength to be true to yourself and not give in to the fight of the simple minded. So often I have been verbally abused by people and I would smile and walk away, then afterward I would think shame that poor person was fueled by jealousy or by their own insecurity. Cause that is usually what cause people to be nasty.

I only recently managed to see things in this way, and it is still difficult but I have gained so much insight into people. Things I would fight for are things I feel proud of, things I love and am loyal to. I will fight for my beliefs, I will fight for my husband and I will fight for my blood relatives. I will not fight against false accusations, I will state my point in a calm way and leave. You will not get me involved emotionally.

So stand up for yourself, but be careful that you don’t get drawn into a petty brawl to make someone else feel better about their insecurities.

So moral of the story is, strength has many faces and many different forms. Don’t be fooled into thinking that screaming and physically hurting someone is strength.

 

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